Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Helicopter propeller disengaged

Learning to turn off the propeller. In reality, I give my guys a lot of leeway, but when something is bothering them it is very hard for this Mom to not just swoop in and fix it.

I recently got some great advice, talk to them about their feelings, don't ask a lot "what's up" questions, but focus on mirroring back what they say and exploring their feelings. When I really think about it, I know I can trust that T will tell me if he needs me to intervene.  I hear if you help them work through their feelings, then they often find the way to resolution on their own; novel concept.

I guess sharing with T some examples of quotes from the bible about "judge not lest ye be judged," to use for a reply to what he's been hearing was maybe, just maybe, getting a little too involved.

Stepping back, helicopter propeller disengaged.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I think this time he brought all this up just to talk, not to seek help.